We did respite care for another foster parent this last weekend. We ended up taking a 2 year old little girl into our home for two days. I was so curious to see how my daughter would react to her or to see if she’d get stressed out with her being there but all ended up going really well. She actually followed Madison around the entire weekend and they became little friends.
The little girl was very shy and timid which is usually the case with foster children when they first come into your home because everything’s knew and they don’t know anyone. On Sunday morning I usually dress Madison up in a dress and get her all prettied up so I decided to do the same with this little girl. I let her borrow one of Madison’s dresses and the second I put it on Madison looks at her dress and says pretty. Then they both start touching their dresses and saying pretty and swirling around. I just sat there and smiled at the two of them. I know that my daughter hears that’s she pretty and beautiful and that she’s the love of my life every single day but I have no idea who has said what to this precious little foster child that was here just for a very short visit.
I believe that it’s our job as parents to make sure our daughters feel beautiful, not just on the outside but on the inside too. I know that one day my daughter will walk into school and some kid or even adult will have a different opinion about who she is or what she looks like but since I’ve been telling her every single day how amazing and beautiful she is, we will have built a foundation in her where she can feel confident enough in herself to walk away and not let it take over who she really is. The world is a cruel place, there are mean people out there who will put our kids down or try and tell them they are something that they are not. And had I not been building her confidence at home where she feels safe and loved she might just walk out the doors and believe those things.