When you’re in the middle of infertility and someone mentions the word adoption to you, you flat out say no way. At least that’s what my husband and I said when my mom came running through the church doors saying you can adopt for free through foster care, my friend from work is doing it! It’s like your whole body clenches up and fear comes across your face as you say, “What?! I don’t need to adopt.”
I guess in a way someone going through infertility is so hopeful to have their own child they think that if they say yes to adoption it means that they gave up the hope of having their own children. It’s like an end all road that not many people want to go down, mostly because inviting a child that you don’t know into your house and for them to accept you as their mom and dad just seems weird and crazy. I mean how could you possible love a child that didn’t come from you. These are the thoughts that went through our heads. And while I did give it a second thought my husband wanted nothing to do with it. At All.
It’s so funny looking back at it because now we couldn’t imagine our lives without adoption. I truly believe that God was like WAIT, Madison is not ready yet, it’s not time for you to adopt just yet so he closed our hearts to even the word adoption. Then as God moved things around and things started to fall into place and we went through foster care trainings while Madison was in the womb, He’s like OK, now it’s time I open your hearts, I have just the perfect little girl for you to love and cherish for the rest of your lives. (You can read more about Madison’s story here)
I always envied my sister and the relationship she had with her babies. How they would call her mom and run to her when they got an ouchie or just want a hug to make them feel better. When you’re in the deep stages of infertility you tend to imagine that your life will never have that. And then one day it happened, it happened through ADOPTION. I picked up Madison at 3 days old and my world changed forever. It’s funny how I wanted that love relationship with a child but little did I know it was way more than that. I have such a deep connection to this child, to MY baby girl, it’s unreal.
I 100% believe that God created her for me and my husband to raise. She was ours from the beginning, God opened our hearts up for adoption at just the right time, he orchestrated everything perfectly.
Monday was World Adoption Day and so I wanted to do a little post celebrating the word adoption. It can be a scary, unknown, not talked about word, but it can also be an amazing word of celebration and I would encourage anyone out there to adopt! It was the best decision we ever made. Ever.