What a touchy subject, especially for women. Years ago women were expected to stay at home and take care of the house, children.... And well that's pretty much all that was expected of them. For years women fought so hard for the "right" to not live like that, to not be put into the "housewife" role. They started getting jobs and moving up the corporate ladders, they started leading their households, taking control of their lives, taking control of their families lives. The world was theirs for the taking and they were not about to let some man take it away from them.
Now without sounding like I'm against women having jobs or women's rights all together, I have to say is this really what God intended a wife to be? My first couple years of marriage I worked a full time job and so did my husband, we would come home to the house being a mess and having to cook a frozen meal. We would be stressed out and cranky from the day so 50% of the time we'd be bickering. I never really thought about my husband's feelings or how he is working hard to support me, all I pretty much thought about was me, me, me-why doesn't he clean the house, why does he ask me questions he already knows the answers to, why does he leave his socks everywhere, why doesn't he ever make dinner.... You know the "why" questions every wife has.
As time went on I started working for my dad who was pastoring a church so I got to be home a lot more than usual. During this time in my life I have gotten to kind of take a step back and watch my husband-watch his feelings, his tempers, his smiles, his laughters, his comments, and his actions. I got to know him more than I have ever known anyone in my life. Then and only then was I able to change my way of thinking from me to him. I became the wife God intended me to be. I caught myself starting to change my attitude and my actions so that I would get the smiles and laughters from him instead of the tempers and bad attitudes. I found myself supporting his every move. It's amazing the difference your relationship becomes with your husband when you understand that the man is the head of the household and your place is right beside him supporting him 100%. How can you support someone 100% if you do not accept everything about them, their flaws and all. Once you step back and fully learn and understand him then you can take a step back in and start being there for him. A husband can conquer the world, if he has a supportive wife lifting him up every step of the way.
If you can afford to, I truly believe it is better for your family if the wife stays home. I know that nowadays it's almost unheard of because of the economy crashing and also just because most women want to get out of the house and have a career. It's hard to keep a happy home if both are working and then both are coming home and fighting over who should be supporting who and then the wife feels bad because it's her "duty" to support her husband- think of all the stress on the wife having to work AND support. It just creates a very stressful household for anyone to live in. I'm not against working wives but if a wife stays home she takes care of the home and when her husband comes home from a stressful day at work he walks into a stress FREE environment where the wife is able to fully support the husband and when both roles take place an amazing family life is built. The children can stay home and be raised with loving one-on-one attention instead of the traumatic experience a daycare could bring. You hear stories all the time on the news of children in daycares, that alone can give you a panic attack.
Well to end my thought on "the role of a wife", I know my thoughts may be old fashion but all I can say is.... The world used to be a lot safer back then, maybe it's because the Role of a Wife has changed?
